Tuesday, March 29, 2016

A Buffer Zone

By Jayde Johanssen

Dating is a complicated kind of business. Dating provides endless opportunities for people to feel tremendously awkward and uncomfortable, making a buffoon out of themselves more often than not. While bad dates provide a plethora of great stories to tell at parties and to good friends, after one date too many the process can start to seem rather hopeless.

Frequenting places like bars and clubs might result in a fair amount of dates, but the quality of them is rather debatable. Once people exit the convenient institutions of college and venture out into the real world, meeting like minded individuals can become much more difficult. This kind of predicament often leads to people dipping their pen in the company ink which is rarely a good idea, work and love lives should be kept very far apart.

There are a whole lot of people in the world so finding a soul mate can take quite a bit of time and effort. Anyone who simply goes for the first person they can tolerate are just short changing themselves and should stick it out for what they really want. The creation of the internet and boom in popularity of dating sites provide a great alternative to the traditional practice of hitting up bars and clubs. These sites also help people who might have become jaded by the dating process and need a little more cushion before fully submerging themselves into the whole idea. People can check out the profiles of other individuals without anyone knowing unless they want to take it to the next level and make contact.

Many people hide their true feelings because they fear being turned away by the object of their desire. Dating hurts sometimes so working through the avenue of online dating helps people operate with a decreased fear of being hurt. Individuals can browse the profile of other people without anyone else ever knowing unless they choose to make contact through chatting or messages on the site. If the other party is not interested they can simply say so or avoid the advances of the other person. While it still might smart a little, this kind of rejection is much more forgiving than a face to face blow to the ego.

Communicating via the website also gives people the opportunity to see if another person really does share their interests without having to waste time with dates and awkward phonecalls.

This protected aspect of online dating services is really great for people who err more on the shy side. If a conversation is struck up between two people on a site they can get to know one another a little better before meeting face to face. Exchanging ideas, beliefs, and interests in conversations before actually meeting increases the chances that the first official date will be a success.

If a shy person can loosen up and establish some kind of connection with someone before meeting, there is a higher likelihood that the date will be more easy going and comfortable. Having a relaxed atmosphere to a date is the best way to promote its success and two people really making a genuine connection. - 31368

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