Why Men Pull Away In Relationships

What Makes Him Pull Away from the Relationship?

Relationships are complex and delicate. They demand the perfect balance between two individuals. Something very tiny and insignificant can result in romance disaster.

Many women wonder why do men pull away? In the beginning, it all seems perfect, romantic and having the potential to last a lifetime. Suddenly, he starts losing interest and begins growing distant. What causes this transformation?

Why men pull away in relationships? The reasons are numerous. Sometimes, it may be the understanding of incompatibility. In other occasions, the behavior of a girlfriend can be destructive enough to make him pull away.

The Jealous Type

Jealousy is one of the main relationship killers. Unfortunately, many people fall victim to it because of their insecurities. Jealous girlfriends destroy their relationships before the partnership has managed to fully evolve.

Jealousy is a form of intense possessiveness and desire to control the life of a partner. People that have a jealous girlfriend or boyfriend will very often go through emotional abuse. A man will probably wish to end it if his girlfriend is acting out overly suspicious and protective.

She was Perfect in the Beginning And Then She Changed

Why do men pull away from a romantic involvement? Very often, ladies adopt a specific type of behavior that is supposed to attract men. Once the relationship starts, their attitude changes.

The nice, nourishing and gentle girlfriend disappears. The neurotic who is overly critical steps into her shoes. Many men begin feeling that they are in a relationship with a stranger. Such transformations can destroy the love between two people.

Boring in the Bedroom

Sex is a major part of every successful relationship. Intimacy problems can be detrimental if no action is undertaken to deal with the issue.

Intimacy with the same partner can get boring. As people get to know each other better, the initial passion subsides. It is also possible for the couple to start having sex fewer times per week. These changes are normal but if the sex becomes routine and boring, the relationship is doomed.

So many women are uncertain in their sexuality. Many girls believe that being more open and experimental about it will signify that they are easy. Such thoughts and ideas will often make men pull away, especially if their girlfriends are unwilling to change or at least try something new.

Wedding Bells

Men are likely to pull away if their girlfriends begin moving too fast. A relationship should follow its natural pace. Things that are rushed will usually never last.

Some women feel desperate. They will hold on to a new relationship, imagining marriage and starting a family with a partner. This is great, as long as it happens at the right time. Rushing things will make him pull away.

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Are Your Relationships Challenging

Is getting along with people difficult? Then, I would ask myself; does my life revolve around assumptions and gossip?

Sometimes misunderstanding, hear-say, gossip or accusation can ruins lives. Live your life as "The Four Agreements" and have wonderful harmonious relationships. "The Four Agreements 1. Be impeccable with your word. 2. Dont take anything personally. 3. Dont make assumptions. 4. Always do your best. "Miguel Ruiz, The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom.

It might start as an innocent joke or sometimes justification of an action one takes. However when any "discussion" starts to take shape of one-sided allegation or mere finger-pointing or blame, that is when we need to seat up and question, before posting any comments or personal opinions.

In life, no event, situation or circumstance arouses because of one-sidedness. There are always two people or two parties involved. A falling-out occurs because two people or a group of friends may have had a disagreement or misunderstanding of some sort and it leads to disharmony or difference of opinion.

That does not make one party "right" and another party "wrong". When one side refuses to understand or make amends or give benefit of doubt that is when a small situation can snow ball into a nasty conflict.

When so-called friends, relatives or third-party listen to one side of the story and make judgements or even comments negatively. This perpetuates the outcome into a unhelpful one and takes it to a point of no-return.

We sometimes feel helpless as we assume we cannot influence what is happening around us. The good news is; we can help! Please question the intelligence and ask us, "Are you the one who will blindly follow unfounded information?" "Would you believe anything anyone relates?" Rumours are dangerous and it might give a short term buzz, but please be aware of the damage it may be causing!

Never take a story from one angle and support it, however close friend or relative you might be? When people have beliefs that are different from our own, they get scared, defend themselves, and impose their point of view on others. Sometimes we listen to gossip and make assumptions. Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you feel is kind, loving and helpful. Communicate with others as clearly as you can, to avoid any misunderstandings, sadness and dramas. With just this one agreement, "Dont make assumptions", we can transform our life completely!

When we make assumptions it is because we believe we know what others are thinking and feeling. We believe we know their point of view and their dreams. We forget that our beliefs are just our point of view based on our belief system and personal experiences and have nothing to do with what others think and feel.

I know, if someone gets angry with me, it is because my belief system is challenging their belief system and they get scared. They need to defend their point of view. I do not become angry, create conflict and expend energy arguing. As I am well aware of the damage assumptions and gossip can create. Hence I maintain my silence. Instead I empower myself with the "Powers".

Understanding Powers

Power of Silence
Silence is Golden, Silence is stillness of mind. Silence is the gap between each thought. Experience and increase this gap and remember our original nature; our innate original vibrating Self. Through silence we can achieve that seems unachievable or impossible.

Power of Meditation
Meditation allows us to create a window to access our innate natural state of being. It allows us to effortlessly be joyful, experience a peaceful moment with nature, be warm and patient with our loved ones, and fully be present to enjoy the blissful energy radiated by our pets.

Power of Blessings
Giving and receiving blessings is one of the most potent actions of all other deeds of GOD. Gods every spoken or unspoken word becomes a blessing for us. We are living images of God on this earth. To give even the slightest glimpse of the Almighty Authority, if we perform this one act joyfully then we would be able to give vision of GOD on this earth. We can emphatically say we have accomplished our purpose on this earth when we understand and use the power of blessings.

Power of Forgiveness
When we hold grudge, anger, jealously, hatred, resentment, revenge, irritation, frustration, and impatience, it opens the door to FEAR. Forgiveness unveils the negative emotions and dissolves them. Learning to forgive is like learning to walk. Step by step. Forgiveness melts the toughest rocks or in our case the hardest hearts into love and well-being.

Power of Appreciation
Appreciation and Humility are twins. When we have one we experience the other. When we are not humble we can not appreciate. When we are appreciative of every thing and every one in our life, it is a humbling experience. Appreciation de-energises the power to our EGO Self; the body consciousness. Appreciation is the single most powerful act to bring ourselves back into the Light Nodes or check the Nodes of Being Spectrum.

Power of Non Judgement
Each an every soul on this earth is unique. Each one has at least one very unique talent that no other soul on this earth has. It has been gifted by GOD. So criticising others will cause us to belittle Gods action. I learnt not to judge people a long time ago and I have spared myself so much agony and heart-ache. I have also tapped into this renewed energy which has freed me from this vicious cycle of focusing, judging, categorising, labelling and boxing people, events, circumstances or situations into "bad", "very very bad", "not so good", "terrible", "could be better", "not enough", "horrible", "good", etc.

Sometimes also referred to as being a S.L.O.B.! (Sorting, Labelling, Organising and Boxing) incidents, persons, conditions, state of affairs, behaviours, consequences, outcomes, results, experiences, occurrences, happenings, occasions, events or circumstances.

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Best Marriage Proposals 7 Proposals For Your Engagement

By Damian Jackson

Below is a list of my best marriage proposals for you to take a look at!

Just make sure that you never completely carbon copy an idea from somewhere else! The best marriage proposals are always the ones which are unique to the two of you! This shouldnt be hard as you know her better than anyone else!

1. Hire a hot-air balloon and fly over the mountains! Make sure you take all her favourite food and some nice champagne! Make sure you take something along for the balloon operator, like a puzzle or a Gameboy!

2. Go digging for sea shells at the beach! You could "accidentally" stumble upon an old bottle that contains a love poem. Read it out to her, it will slowly become clear that its all about her! Then propose!

3. If your relationship is very mature and youre sure shell say yes, then go for an instant wedding! Youll need everything planned out, including with her family and friends. Propose and when she accepts, start the wedding on the spot!

4. Get her three red roses! The first one represents the past, the second the present and the third which has the ring attached is the future.

5. Arrange at day at a health spa and get the full treatment before going off for a photo shoot! During the shoot go down on one knee and propose! Youll have it all on camera! Afterwards go out for a nice meal followed by a night at a 5 star hotel! Perfect!

6. Ask your girl to meet you in the park then turn up late...riding a horse and a suit of armour! You could have a friend lurking in some nearby bushes ready to play Holsts "Jupiter!" Of course, you may need to make sure your friend has a clean criminal record!

7. Collect your girl from work in a rented limo. Have her favourite dress to hand and drive to the best restaurant in town! Pre arrange for them to serve you in the limo! Have the driver play romantic music with the privacy window is up and you can propose over champagne! - 31368

About the Author:

I hope you liked learning about some of my Best Marriage Proposals and that youve taken some ideas and inspiration from them! I have cheekily held back some of my Best Marriage Proposals for you to read on my blog if you would like. This is one of the most important moments of your life! Good luck!

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Unhappy With Boyfriend Advice How To Help Your Boyfriend Make You Happy

You love your boyfriend a lot and he is delightful at times. But right now, you feel unhappy with your boyfriend, and you know your behavior could be pushing him away. To help save your relationship and make it even better, allow me to share with you some unhappy with boyfriend advice (what I do when I am unhappy with my boyfriend). Doing this has not only saved our relationship from misery, we are both happy most of the time now. More importantly, as a result of what Ive done, my boyfriend finds me so precious that he doesnt want to let me go. He has proposed and we are preparing for marriage!

My advice to someone who is unhappy with her boyfriend is to understand men better. To do this, Ive attended seminars, read books, researched online and spoke to people (both male and female). Overall, I still find books to be the most comprehensive and accessible method to understand men better. The more you understand men, the easier it gets for you to help your boyfriend make you happier. Without additional knowledge, you can spin round in circles - doing the same old things while hoping for a different result... insanity.

However, in my quest to understand men better, Ive made some common mistakes...

1. I asked my boyfriend to explain his behavior to me. From my experience, this only frustrates and confuses men. In the beginning, a guy may play along and explain himself. But the answers are usually very short and dont really explain anything. After a while, the guy gets frustrated and refuses to say anything. He gets very moody and withdraws. The relationship dies a slow death. So if you want to understand your boyfriend better, dont ask him yet. Learn from a trusted source first and confirm what youve learned with him later.

2. Ive read some books and thought I knew it all. In the beginning, I read Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus. I even attended a talk by Dr John Gray himself. I thought I knew it all and stopped learning after that. Unfortunately, even though I had gained additional informational, it still didnt help me save my relationship with my ex. There was more that I needed to learn.

For some women, attending one course and reading one book can change the way they relate to their boyfriend and improve their relationship tremendously. Perhaps I am a slower learner. So, Ive had to continuously read and learn more from relationship experts in order to understand men better.

My point is, if youve read some books before, applied the information and got happier with your boyfriend for a while, but then it got worse again, dont give up. Education is a life-long process. As long as weve got books about relationships to read, forums, counselors, married friends to talk to, everything is going to be fine. You definitely have the power to make your relationship dreams come true.

Why its been important for me to understand men better when I feel unhappy with my boyfriend...

Each time I felt unhappy with my boyfriend, he wasnt the one who had a problem with our relationship. I did. And the more unhappy I was, the more he withdrew. This made me feel anxious, which caused him to withdraw further. It was a downward spiral. But spending time alone to read more about understanding men always brings my heart and mind back to the right place... I feel a deeper compassion for my boyfriend and men in general. I also get great ideas on what to do to help my boyfriend give me what I need and want.

But shouldnt my boyfriend work harder to make me feel better too?

The fact is, men are really quite clueless about relationships. You may not believe it now, but all a man wants is to make you happy. And when you are not happy, he feels bad about himself. Unfortunately, men dont and cant truly understand a woman. I always tell my friends "Heck, Im a woman and I cant understand women!" So I urge you not to be hard on your boyfriend when you are unhappy. If he knew how to make you happy, he would.

Still, nagging, scolding and criticizing him is NOT the way. You need to speak to him in a way that he understands. You need to communicate lovingly with him. Think about it: How often do you want to do something nice for someone whos mean to you? Fighting with a man only brings about more unhappiness. If you want to your boyfriend to adore you, youve got to understand more about men so you can communicate effectively with him.

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Avoiding Abusive Relationships

Something that happens all too often these days is the rise of abusive relationships. They’ve always been nonexistent, but many years ago, people didn’t discuss them. Once you were married, you were married for better or worse. Too many times it was, indeed, the death of one of the spouses that parted them. It was the reason for the death that made the situation so outrageous and so sad.

It’s better if these types of relationships are never begun. Believe it or not, there are ways to avoid ever becoming a part of one. Granted, you can’t always tell if you’re getting involved with a lunatic. Many times they hide it very effectively until they have you firmly under their control. That’s when you’ll see their true colors. However, there are nearly always some kinks in their carefully constructed armor that you can spot if you let yourself see it.

The first thing you’ll probably notice is a control issue. This typically comes into play a little at a time. It may surface the first time when you’re dressing to go out and he subtly suggests that a different outfit looks much better on you, or that HE prefers you in the red dress rather than the black one. If you give into that one, he’ll do it over and over again. You may not notice that first control trick but you should definitely pay attention if he starts to dictate your wardrobe all the time.

Another thing that is also a control technique is when he starts trying to slowly isolate you from your family and friends. He’s usually smart enough to keep this to a minimum and use little things that keep you from realizing what his actual plan is. It may be something like telling you that he has a feeling that your parents, sister or your best friend doesn’t really like him. Even though you haven’t noticed anything yourself, when you care enough about someone you don’t want to believe that they’re lying to you. So you accept it as fact and put yourself on alert when you’re around the people that have been accused of not liking him.

Most likely, no one has ever said or done anything to make this guy think they don’t like him. He’s just trying to plant enough doubt in your head that you’ll believe only him and stay away from those people that “don’t like” him. This gets you right where he wants you: isolated and unprotected from whatever he may do to you next.

When you see these danger signs, it’s time to run, not walk, as fast and far as you can away from this man. It’s only going to get worse the longer you stay. The worst thing you can do is continue to stay involved with him under the impression that you can change him. That’s never going to happen. Things will only get worse the longer you stay. When you see any of these signs, it’s time to cut your losses and move on.

If youve found your way here then probably either you or someone you know is going through a tough break up. I know things look bad now but the last word hasnt been spoken yet. Even if you think your break up is final if youre determined to get back together then you really can do it. Many relationships that go through a break up end up getting back together. It may sound hard to believe but just because youve broken up doesnt mean that your relationship is over for good.

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Strengthening The Force Of Love In Relationships

By Justin Krawl

There are instances that a broken love may occur. So how do we resolve this situation? How do we get your love back?

In a relationship, the main glue that unites the two of you together is love. Once this love lessens, its hard to hold it but there are methods and opportunities where this love can be recovered. What are these?

To begin, you should find the main source of why this happened. It may be that a verbal fight ignites the fire or there are pending problems that was never really resolved. Tracing your steps back can make you accurately organize and straighten out these conditions.

Second is that both of you must have a good foundation. This includes the factor of trust and understanding with each other. When we say trust, it means that even though you two are apart from each other at that moment, you believe him/her of what their decisions are. This is sometimes the most common crisis that a couple encounters. Trust is hard to earn but can easily be broken. Trusting your partner will help strengthen the bond. Understanding is also needed. There could be times that your partner has a temper because of stress from work or other problems and you need to understand when this is the case. Dont easily jump to a conclusion for it can lead to a fight.

Third is giving each other a little space. A person has his/her own social life. Give him/her time to associate with friends, meet new people, and rub shoulders with them. Cutting this interest can choke the both of you which is not a fine thing. Mingling with others helps you develop your world and view.

Lastly is that both of you must be prepared to commit in a relationship. Committing in a relationship requires a lot from you. This includes time and effort. It should be that you can control your time from work and to your individual lives. It has to be stable in order to progress in both ways. Next will be effort. In a relationship, the two parties must work it out. Its not enough to just let the one partner grasp the relationship for there will come a time when that person will get exhausted and the relationship will collapse. Why? Because there wasnt enough foundation to lean on to.

Thus, a relationship should be made with the blessing of both parties. It can be that a break down of love or relationship happened but whats more meaningful is that both of you respect each others decision. There are times that you cant get your love back which is indeed painful. In this case, its better to just let life itself decide if the two of you are meant to be or not. Try accepting things the way they are for now. Dont let this ordeal be a drawback to your happiness for there might be a certain plan prepared for you in the future. Keep living no matter what the result will be. For this particular ordeal will give you the strength to continue life and be self nurturing at the same time. So love comes with two things, it could be happiness or sadness. Either its happiness or sadness that lands upon the relationship, the good thing is that both parties came to encounter the amazing feeling of love. - 31368

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He said, I want my ex girlfriend back now. So I told him how to get back with your ex in this 7 part simple course.

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How To Get Your Ex Back

So your relationship has ended, but you just cant shake the feeling that your ex is still the one you need to be with. Now youre in the situation of having to win your ex back. This is exciting territory, but if you arent careful then you might make your chances of getting back together even worse. There are plenty of wrong ways to go about it, but the good news is that there are plenty of right ways too. Here are some of the best tips on how to get your ex back:

1. Avoid becoming obsessive. First of all, there are a few things you want to make sure to avoid. You certainly dont want to come off as obsessive or needy. While you might personally feel assured that you belong back together with your ex right now, you have to remember that your ex might not feel exactly the same way - at least not yet. Be patient and think of this as an opportunity to show how mature you are, not how annoying you can be.

2. Consider how you can change. Before even making a plan, you have to consider why you broke up. Trying to put a bad relationship back together is like trying to make a delicious meal with spoiled ingredients - it just isnt going to work out. You want to seriously think about what you did to contribute to ending the relationship, then make changes. Think of breaking up as a learning opportunity - think about what can you improve about yourself If nothing changes then youll likely end up with the same result; and dont just make changes for show, actually push yourself to become a better person.

3. Communicate face to face. Its important that your ex is able to see whatever personal changes you make. This is where you talk. Talking with an ex can be intimidating, especially if the relationship ended on bad terms. But if you really want to know how to get your ex back, you have to know how to communicate kindly, clearly, and honestly. No texting, no Facebook messages. Call them and request a short get together, perhaps over some coffee. If youve made changes, make sure that your ex is aware of them. You might even need to put an "Im sorry" or two into your conversation. Many exes might say, "Ill believe it when I see it." So show them. When your ex sees how different you are, it will prove youre ready for commitment.

4. Make a statement. But true romance, true relationships, dont just magically arise. The magic comes from effort. Find a way to make a statement about how you feel about your ex. Be original and creative, such as serenading them outside of their window, sending them flowers or a gift to their work.

5. Give them what they need. The process might be slow. But be patient. Theres no need to text them 300 times a day. You want to make sure that you are giving your ex and yourself exactly what you need. Often, this means a little bit of time and space apart first. You want to give the impression that youre not just jumping into the old relationship, but are ready to begin something fresh, new, and exciting with a person you care about. Remember that theres no single formula on how to get your ex back, but as long as youre caring and improving, you have a great chance of making your ex feel the same way you do.

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The Right Way to Text an Ex Boyfriend and Get Closer to Getting Him Back

If you want to text an ex boyfriend and get him back, you might have some trouble doing so in the beginning. The good news is, though, that there are a few things that you can learn in order to get closer to him and get him back for good. Find out what those things are here.

1. How to send text messages that matter.

It is important to send out text messages that actually matter if you want to text an ex boyfriend and get him back in the end. This means that your text messages have to have real substance. They also have to lure your ex boyfriend into replying to them. Therefore, basic messages, like "How have you been?" or "Hello" simply wont work. Even though those messages might work well in person since they serve as small talk, they wont mean very much if you want to get your ex boyfriend back sometime.

2. How to send neutral messages.

No matter how much of a grudge you might have held against him after the breakup, you should never text an ex boyfriend and make him feel like he has to make things up to you in some way. Instead, be forgiving and send him text messages that arent laced with bitter emotions and feelings. This will show your ex boyfriend how mature you are and that you might be worth a second try. Plus, it will prove to him that you arent desperate or needy for his attention.

3. How to send positive messages.

Fighting with an ex boyfriend - even if only through text - will ruin your chances of ever getting him back - remember that. The same goes for sending any type of negative text messages, really. In general, positive text messages are always good - provided they dont pressure your ex boyfriend into replying, that is.

4. How to send messages with a specific goal.

Before you text an ex boyfriend, you should think about how you would like him to respond to it to begin with. Would you like him to smile after he gets your text? Would you like to remind him of all of the good times that you had together? If you dont give a specific goal to your text message, you should just forget sending it off altogether. As a general rule while texting: there is no point if there is no goal.

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Understanding Male Psychology Why Ignoring Your Ex Boyfriend Works

Youve heard the same advice time and time again since the break up. Youre supposed to ignore your ex boyfriend if you want to get him back. At first glance it makes absolutely no sense at all. How in the world could ignoring a man make him decide that he wants you back? The opposite seems much more likely, doesnt it? Internally you feel that right now would be the perfect time to pick up the phone to call your ex boyfriend and suggest you two try and work things out. But everyone is screaming at you to not do that. Youre confused, you feel desperate and youre worried that youre going to make a mistake thats going to cost you the man you love. Before you do anything, you need a short and concise lesson in male psychology. Theres a very good reason why you should pay attention to those who tell you to forget your ex boyfriends phone number, address and place of work.

Right Now Youre Not in Control of Your Failed Relationship

After a break up the individual who is chasing their ex partner is not in control of the future of the relationship. As women we often wish we could live our lives in the pages of a romance novel. We imagine that moment when our ex boyfriend picks up the phone to say he cant live another day without us. The problem is that in reality thats not likely to happen if youre chasing him non-stop. Your actions really do speak louder than your words in this scenario and your actions are screaming a message that loudly declares, "Im desperate and I dont care who knows it."

He is completely in control of what happens next. If he chooses to ignore you, he knows instinctively that youre just going to step up your efforts and pursue him even more. Essentially youre telling him that the more he ignores you, the harder youll try. Your life revolves around him and that feeds his ego. Most men in this position arent quick to give their ex girlfriend the time of day because they want to see how far shell push herself in an effort to win him back.

You must shift the dynamic of the relationship so that youre the one in control of the future. The best way to do that is to change your own behavior. Youll actually be surprised at how quickly hell decide he wants you when he suddenly believes you no longer want him.

Theres More to Ignoring Your Ex Boyfriend Than Not Answering His Texts

One relationship changing error that many women make before they start no contact with their ex boyfriend is they tell him of their intentions in such a way that he realizes that its little more than a game. If you announce to your ex boyfriend that youre no longer talking to him, and you do that while youre overly emotional, hes going to view it as a tactic to get him back. His competitive spirit will kick itself into overdrive and hell set out on his own course to ignore you. Before you know it, weeks or months will have passed and youll both be too stubborn to reach out to connect with the other.

Youre much better off just dropping off the face of the earth. The best advice you can follow is to decide one moment (now is good) that youre not going to talk or try to try to your ex boyfriend again for at least a month. Dont let anyone know that youre doing this as mutual friends love to gossip and your ex boyfriend will once again realize youre using no contact as a tool to remind him how much he needs you.

During the next month, try your best to shift your focus to something positive and enriching. Its very tempting to sit and wallow in the memories of when you two were together but thats not going to accomplish anything productive for you. This should be a month when you rediscover who you are, as a woman, and you get in touch with what you want out of life.

Redefine What Your Life Goals Are As You Distance Yourself From Your Ex

Youre in for a couple of welcome surprises when you do begin the journey of ignoring your ex boyfriend. First and foremost, youre going to be shocked with how he responds. Typically a man will want a woman who no longer wants him. Once your ex boyfriend realizes that youve stopped your never-ending quest to regain his love and devotion, hell set out to recapture your heart. Its amazing how that works. Men are notorious for wanting things in life that are just beyond their reach. When one of those things becomes an ex girlfriend, a man will kick his charm into high gear in an effort to win her back. Basically, if you take away the knowledge that you want him, hell start to question who you do want. Once that happens, hell come running back to you full force, trying to get you to explain to him whats changed.

The other, more welcome, benefit of ignoring your ex boyfriend is you get to finally decide, in an emotionally uncluttered way, whether getting back together is actually something that you want or need. Things look and feel much different a month after the break up. Your emotions are settled, your future is less defined and you are open to a whole array of possibilities.

Giving yourself the opportunity to take a breath from your ex boyfriend is one of the best gifts you can possibly ever get. You will finally be able to decide what is best for you and whether reuniting with him is truly the best way to make all your romantic dreams come true.

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