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Thursday, May 26, 2016

Are They Still Interested

It’s so easy to know when you are happy in a relationship. But where does the line begin to blur between getting comfortable with one another and getting bored? Sometimes it’s hard for one person involved to catch the difference. Where you may be content in the relaxed stage of your relationship, your partner could be getting bored without you even noticing.

Don’t let your relationship fall under because your partner has lost interest. If you let it go too long unnoticed, then your partner is likely to lose interest completely. Sometimes, it doesn’t matter what you do after that breaking point. This just means that you need to catch it early on to prevent them from leaving you in the future. 

Now, when people say you need to keep things interesting, that doesn’t necessarily mean that you need to defy all norms and live on the edge every minute of every day. All it means is that you need to pick up the slack of dropping the flash and passion in the comfort stages. Don’t let yourself go just because you’re confident they won’t leave you.

Do they still care? Discover the TELL TALE clues your ex leaves that says you still have a special place in their heart…and I don’t care what they say… This is all you need to look for PERIOD!

A good way of showing that you still care about yourself and how they think of you is by keeping up appearances. The bait and switch is the least attractive dating tactic. Listen to them when they ask you to keep up with personal hygiene. Do up your hair every now and then, or put on just a little bit of make-up day to day.

The demands of appearance may seem shallow, but that is what initially draws people to each other. If you change your whole look by abandoning the desire to please your significant other or draw them in, they won’t feel as if they are even with the same person they fell for. They’ll feel deceived and trapped. It creates a lot of bitterness and resentment on their behalf because the whole relationship can seem like a lie from simply letting yourself go.

Looks aside, a lot of people also desert the romance when the relationship “dies down.” You can help to bring some of that passion back by simple romantic gestures. If there was anything you used to do, return to it again every now and then. If there’s something that they’ve always wanted to do with you, give it a go. It really helps to keep things interesting by trying new things. Go off of what they liked before and what they’ve been thinking about these days. See if you can mix and match some ideas.

Don’t let your partner slip away from you. It’s not that they don’t love you; it’s just that they feel as though you don’t care about them as much anymore. The best way to show your love is to listen to them, tell them what you want and like, and then compromise. Since the two of you are still together, there is still hope to reignite any dead passion.

Going through a break up is heart wrenching, especially so if its someone youve really grown to care about. If youre going through a break up and scrambling to do everything you can to save your failing relationship dont fret because its not over yet. The truth is that most relationships can be saved despite the reasons and despite the odds. No matter how bad it looks for you right now there are things you can do and learn that will help you overcome your current issues.

Wednesday, May 25, 2016

Prayer and the Miracle of Forgiveness

Those doubting the power in forgiveness will doubt we have achieved it. This should not trouble or dismay us. These people who doubt probably dont know from whose Hand this miracle of forgiveness is from. If they did, they would not doubt. They would instead partake of this cherished blossom for replete good.

Forgiveness in its complete sense is a miracle of God. When no pain remains where there once was, all we can credit for it is sight: we see this situation as God sees it.

PORTRAYING THE FELT EXPERIENCE OF FORGIVENESS

How might forgiveness be experienced other than felt? Some might ask, "Has the hurt been driven deeply down, and inaccessible, to the psyche?" "Is it now unconscious to them?"

For us who partake in the miracle of forgiveness it seems irrelevant in the moment, other than to venture curiously, when we have the time, in addressing the question. We have no reason to doubt the miracle.

All we know is this felt sense of harmony is real, and it comes with no effort on our parts, and we can just know it is not entirely of us. We cannot take credit other than to thank God for the wisdom of faith in this situation.

When we feel not a shred of vengeance towards someone who has hurt us, and we may see with the eyes of our heart their hurt that propelled them to hurt us, we have been gifted, miraculously, the sight of God.

We cannot put a price on this sense of felt experience. All we wanted was to not feel hurt any more. And that is exactly what we feel now. The hurt is gone, though the memory remains. Through prayer God has caused a change in our hearts. Through prayer we have been healed.

THE MIRACULOUS HEALING OF FORGIVENESS

Healing is such a necessary function enabling life. Whether it is physical healing or spiritual healing we are desperate for it when we need it.

But in our desperation we can end up doing the very things that prove as barriers for healing. Desperation breeds frustration. After a while we begin to insist that God would heal us.

But miracles dont work that way.

Then when we pray and leave our healing to God, regarding the felt experience of forgiveness, God begins to work in the situation in a multiplicity of ways. He works supernaturally, within our unconscious minds, and within our hearts too. God is working in the heart of the other person as well. There are many more dimensions than these four.

How forgiveness works is a mystery, but it is assisted never more than via our faithfulness. The vehicle to faithfulness that augments the miracle is prayer.

When we do all we can to reconcile our hearts and our thinking we open every door and remove every barrier, on our side, to restore hope that the relationship would experience feelings of love once more.

© 2012 S. J. Wickham.



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Tuesday, May 24, 2016

Why Men Pull Away In Relationships

What Makes Him Pull Away from the Relationship?

Relationships are complex and delicate. They demand the perfect balance between two individuals. Something very tiny and insignificant can result in romance disaster.

Many women wonder why do men pull away? In the beginning, it all seems perfect, romantic and having the potential to last a lifetime. Suddenly, he starts losing interest and begins growing distant. What causes this transformation?

Why men pull away in relationships? The reasons are numerous. Sometimes, it may be the understanding of incompatibility. In other occasions, the behavior of a girlfriend can be destructive enough to make him pull away.

The Jealous Type

Jealousy is one of the main relationship killers. Unfortunately, many people fall victim to it because of their insecurities. Jealous girlfriends destroy their relationships before the partnership has managed to fully evolve.

Jealousy is a form of intense possessiveness and desire to control the life of a partner. People that have a jealous girlfriend or boyfriend will very often go through emotional abuse. A man will probably wish to end it if his girlfriend is acting out overly suspicious and protective.

She was Perfect in the Beginning And Then She Changed

Why do men pull away from a romantic involvement? Very often, ladies adopt a specific type of behavior that is supposed to attract men. Once the relationship starts, their attitude changes.

The nice, nourishing and gentle girlfriend disappears. The neurotic who is overly critical steps into her shoes. Many men begin feeling that they are in a relationship with a stranger. Such transformations can destroy the love between two people.

Boring in the Bedroom

Sex is a major part of every successful relationship. Intimacy problems can be detrimental if no action is undertaken to deal with the issue.

Intimacy with the same partner can get boring. As people get to know each other better, the initial passion subsides. It is also possible for the couple to start having sex fewer times per week. These changes are normal but if the sex becomes routine and boring, the relationship is doomed.

So many women are uncertain in their sexuality. Many girls believe that being more open and experimental about it will signify that they are easy. Such thoughts and ideas will often make men pull away, especially if their girlfriends are unwilling to change or at least try something new.

Wedding Bells

Men are likely to pull away if their girlfriends begin moving too fast. A relationship should follow its natural pace. Things that are rushed will usually never last.

Some women feel desperate. They will hold on to a new relationship, imagining marriage and starting a family with a partner. This is great, as long as it happens at the right time. Rushing things will make him pull away.

Should I Delete My Ex Girlfriend From Facebook

Breaking up is a horribly painful process. Sometimes we want to just move on and completely forget about our ex. Other times we just wish we could go back in time and relive those great times we shared together.

Moving on is just a difficult process. You really want to delete her number from the phone but at the same time you keep it because you hope that someday you will get her back. Now, you also have to worry about deleting her from Facebook as well. Seeing her profile updates can be very painful but just like with the telephone number you hope that you will get her back and you still want her to be part of your life. Does deleting her remove hope for a future together or does it help you recover faster?

So Should I Delete My Ex Girlfriend From Facebook?

You are probably reading this article because you are interested in getting your ex girlfriend back and you are confused about the best way to try and get her back. If you didnt want her back you wouldnt care enough to read this article so clearly this woman is important to you.

I personally have NEVER deleted anyone from Facebook. This is my blanket rule. I have been deleted by my ex girlfriends but I wasnt interested in rekindling those relationships or even maintaining friendships so I didnt care enough to ask why. Dont try to delete your Facebook just to grab your ex girlfriends attention. Thats immature and childish.

I dont think you should delete your ex. I have some other rules for you about Facebooking with your ex. You should avoid checking out her profile and what she is up to. It will make the breakup more difficult if you stalk her everyday especially if other guys start flirting with her! You can hide her updates on the Facebook wall which I recommend you do. This way you dont have to be immature by deleting her from Facebook and you dont have to be reminded of her every time you log onto Facebook.

Dont over think this. Just hide her updates to help you stop thinking about her. If you guys had mutual friends who are more her friends than yours and tag her in posts that you can still see then hide their updates as well. Basically if something makes you miss her then hide it. This can include things like phone numbers and old pictures.

Get outside and away from Facebook and live your life!

The greatest strategy in moving on after a breakup and getting your ex back are the same! The key is to work on yourself and become a greater man and live a more interesting life. You should be going out and having fun with friends, take up a hobby (like Muay Thai) and even dating other girls. When you do this you will become a much more interesting attractive man and because you will be so busy doing these things and more importantly having fun doing these things then that haunting pain of your ex will slowly start to fade.

When you start living your life in a bigger more interesting way... women will be drawn to you like a magnet! You will have such an interesting life they will want to be part of it. In fact your ex girlfriend will also want to be part of your life again!

If you upload pictures of you and your friends out at a bar/pub to Facebook she might look at them and start thinking about you again. It will make her miss you when she sees that you are having fun without her. You should NOT upload these pictures only with the intention to make her miss you. Thats manipulative. My advice is to live your life in a fun and fulfilling way and you can share those memories and moments with your friends on FB.

If you really want to get your ex back there are strategies and techniques you can use. These extend beyond just Facebook and into other areas of your life. You need to have a step by step plan to get her back. The worst thing you can do it let your emotions lead you because they will lead to some terrible decisions such as drunk dialing or I miss you sooo much baby XX text messages. This will ruin any chance of every getting her back!

Monday, May 23, 2016

What Are The Usual Deal Breakers in Online Dating

By Janine Hanson

Meeting and dating some online is not different in meeting and dating someone offline. They both have same course before you can have a good date as it should be. When it comes to online dating, you should have to communicate first with that someone via electronic mail or by phone chat before personally meeting them in person. And once you have met that someone personally, there might be a chance for a second date or not. Similar when you meet a certain person offline before going on a first date. To make things work out well, you should avoid these common mistakes for you to have a memorable first date in online dating...

#1: Being serious too soon Even if you met a person online and had conversation or still having by email, chatting and talking over the phone, it does not mean that both of you are bound to be together as husband and wife. Even if both of you decided to meet in person, you should never assume that you are meant to be. That is too pathetic. You should get a hold of yourself whether it is offline dating or online dating. And you must keep that in mind. Too much expectation will only lead to a melancholic romance life and a broken heart. You should be just friends first to know each other well, and in time this might get into a good serious relationship. Give and have time to grow before you indulge into a commitment especially if you are looking for a long term partner.

Deal Breaker #2: Talking about too personal subjects during your very first date You should never talk about too personal issues during your very first date or when you just met her at a certain social gathering or online. Debatable subjects like religions, way of life, political opinions, and other personal things that might upset a woman. If you are already in a commitment, then that is the proper time to talk about these issues. But for the mean time, do not converse this kind of subjects.

Deal Breaker #3: Cynical person Cynical person is certainly a turn off. The usual mistake men do is talking about their past relationship, like talking about their ex wife or ex girlfriend, saying harsh about the experience and being nostalgic about what happened while you are trying to be on a date. It is not advisable to force yourself doing this kind of dating if you are still not over on your past relationship. It might upset the other person and might lose her interest. You should stop thinking about the past first and if you are ready for a new relationship, then that is the time to meet new individuals.

Common Mistake #4: Giving out too much personal information about you Be careful in giving out too much personal information about you. This might cause a big problem. Always remember that you are chatting with an unfamiliar person, even if you feel at ease when talking to them, you still have no assurance that you are in safe hands when you decided to meet them in person . For that reason, do not easily tell where you live or phone number, keep it confidential. Do not trust easily. It is really a mistake. Youll never know if the person has bad intention or not. - 31368

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How to Get Ex Girlfriend Back in the Right Situation

Choosing the right time and situation is important to attract your ex girlfriend and ask her to back. You should make sure that she is in good mood and you could touch her emotionally. One of the best situations is in a friend group’s gathering where you can enjoy joking, laughing and telling stories together. Then, pull her aside and start to talk more deeply about another try. However, it is not something that you could do directly. You should have good communication with her before. Contact her through text messages; the written communication could make you think much about positive talk and avoid the negatives. That is the best tip you try on how to get ex girlfriend back.
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Sunday, May 22, 2016

Get An Ex Back In 3 Steps The Fast Track To Getting Your Ex Back

Im not stranger to nasty breakups and trying to get an ex back. Ive had breakups that Ive handled horribly (see some of my other articles for examples of this) and never saw those girlfriends again. But Ive also had breakups that I handled well and was able to get my ex back when I wanted to. Over the years, Ive realized that handling breakups right (in a way that leaves you the option of getting back together) requires three steps. You dont have to follow the times exactly, but you do need each of these three steps in some capacity if you want to get an ex back.

Get An Ex Back Step 1: Leave them the heck alone.

The first part is pretty simple. No matter how much your emotions cry out to dial up your ex, beg them to take you back, and call every person they may or may not ever hook up with a scumbag, loser, tramp, etc., you need to remember this rule: No talking to your ex. None. You get to have one more conversation with them, and that ends with you agreeing that the breakup is a good idea and both of you need some time away from each other to figure things out.

Get An Ex Back Step 2: Move on.

Yeah, this one can be a bit counter intuitive. But if you want to get an ex back, you need to move on from them during this phase. This is the time for you to make your life great. Hit the gym, eat right, go out with your friends, date other people, work on your career, and generally do the exactly opposite of every stereotypical thing people do after a breakup. This is not the time to eat a pint of ice cream or drink a twelve pack of beer. Its the time for you to put yourself back in the center of your own life and start being the person you want to be.

Get An Ex Back Step 3: Start over slowly.

When you finally talk to your ex again (and this should be at least a month after the breakup), ask them to go for coffee to catch up. Meet them for a half an hour and no longer. Talk about the changes youve made ("Ive been trying this new workout routine and Im really liking it. Im even up for a promotion at work."), and ask how theyve been. End the coffee date before things get too reflective, and just say goodbye. Then call them again in another week and go out for coffee again, this time for longer. Slowly work your way up until youre practically together again, and have "the talk" about making it official. Dont beg, dont be clingy, dont get jealous, and DEFINITELY dont go on about how much better of a boyfriend or girlfriend youll be if they just give you another chance. Be your new, confident, powerful self and theyll fall for you all over again.



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Forgiveness An Important Eternity Perspective

"When you forgive, you in no way change the past - but you sure do change the future."
~Bernard Meltzer

Forgiveness is a future concept. It is also about regret. For every single person that has mastered the art of forgiveness in one important relationship, there would be literally a thousand and more who have missed their opportunities. Many of these missed opportunities have contributed to a later lifetime of pain.

Forgiveness is a near and present option we all have.

There are grudges we hold against certain people - and all of us do - and our opportunity to make things right is now. Furthermore, we hold grudges even against ourselves. When will we identify these past issues of dissonance, put them to bed, and pave for ourselves a freshly hopeful future?

DEALING WITH OUR GENERATIONAL FAULTS OF MANUFACTURE

Most of our grudges against others occur because of conflicts of personality within the family or within the workplace. These dynamics have existed for generations and will continue to recur through succeeding generations long after we have gone. It stands to reason that we do not need to make the same mistakes others before us have, or those that will come after us - if they should so choose.

Our faults of manufacture are not Gods fault. They are the fault of our pride.

We have available to us the opportunity to overcome our pride; to loosen the quiet grip of anger which prevents us from reconciling broken situations.

We may have had parents and grandparents and great grandparents who struggled to forgive, many of whom may have gone to their graves not having reconciled. It doesnt have to be that way with us. If we wrangle with our faults of familial manufacture - the ways we have been built - and we expose them to truth - we, and our present loved ones and colleagues, stand to benefit greatly. And regrets are circumvented.

DOING NOW WHAT ONLY NOW WE CAN

There are so many things we can only do now whilst we have the chance.

The importance of this principle can never be understated. We assume life will continue on the trajectory it is indefinitely, even though we know death comes to us all. Still, we put off and we put off and we put off. And though grace works through time to give us plenty of chances typically, we just never know when all those chances might dry up, suddenly. And sudden that transition is!

We are wise to do now what only now we can do. Before eternity intercedes, and we never know when it will, let us forgive; before its too late.

© 2012 S. J. Wickham.



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Powerful Kamakhya Devi mantra


Kamakhya Beej Mantra:-

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 Kleem Kleem Kaamaakhyaa Kleem Kleem namah |

Kamakhya Vashikaran Mantra:-

Om namo kamakshi devi aamuki me vansham kuru kuru swaha |
Kamakhya Devi Mantra:--
Kamakhy Varade Devi Nilparvatvasini,
Twam Devi Jagatam Mataryonimudre Namostute |

Kamakhya Pranam Mantra:-

Kamakhye kaam sampane kamesvari hari priye,
Kaamnaam dehi me nityem kaamesvari namostute|
According to Hindu Mythology chanting of Kamakhya Mantra regularly is the most powerful way to please Goddess Kamakhya and get her blessing.
How to chant Kamakhya Mantra
To get the best result you should chant Kamakhya Mantra early morning after taking bath and in front of Goddess Kamakhya Idol or picture. You should first understand the Kamakhya Mantra meaning in hindi to maximize its effect.
Benefits of Kamakhya Mantra
Regular chanting of Kamakhya Mantra gives peace of mind and keeps away all the evil from your life and makes you healthy, wealthy and prosperous.

Saturday, May 21, 2016

How to Get Back Ex Boyfriend from New Girlfriend in Short Time

If you were asking the question on how to get back ex boyfriend from new girlfriend, then the answer lies in you. Men are always looking for the best girl that they can have. If you want to get your ex boyfriend back, then you need to show him that you are better than the girl he is dating currently. That doesn’t mean you should change the way you are, but you simply need to make yourself a much better woman. Pay more attention on your physical appearance or get more involves in public activity is a smart way to show him how much that he had lost.

How to Get Ex Back Spell of Love

It seems like so many people are in desperate to get their exes back in their life. This is why people are getting excited in things like how to get your ex back including the old school method, getting your ex back with spells. How to get ex back spell here is not the kind of spells that are used by witch like you see in the movies. The spells that you need are some things that can make your heart strong and keep going on the right way. The spells here are the things that can make you think positively. Give yourself a peaceful mind that can make you think that everything is not your mistake, because everyone makes mistakes and he still loves you tough he is apart from you.

Wednesday, May 18, 2016

How to Attract Girls in A Flash

By Chase Chandler

Attracting girls may one of the topics that derive so much attention. Guys are so keen on being up to date with regards to the opposite sex, getting their attention in particular.

Some guys have it with them without any fuss, but others are still struggling to be noticed. How to attract girls is fairly easy. That is, if you do it right.

Girls may have the reputation for being difficult to deal with, but once you know them, you will be amazed how delightful and funny they can be. But first of all, you get to have the right approach.

Read on below and attract girls the quickest way possible.

While girls want attention, you should proceed carefully. You already know that this is their weakness, so you already have an edge. What you should not do however, is to give her too much attention than she needs. Like any other girl, she will also want some space for herself. Dont go overboard and make her uncomfortable with your approach.

Having a sense of humor will do well for you. Girls love guys who is fun to be with. If you are one, you already have something working for you. Girls will have fun being with you and they will enjoy laughing at your jokes. They will see you to be someone who can give them a good time. This of course gives you the chance for that second date.

Being romantic sets you apart from all other guys. This is perhaps the most important thing to get the girl attracted to you. Every girl wants to be swept off her feet by a man who knows how to make her feel special. As with every approach, dont overdo it, otherwise, it will be suffocating on her side. So show her romantic side and just give her what she needs at that time.

Being creative can capture her heart. If you know poetry, write poems for her. If you can draw, paint a picture of her. If you can sing, why not sing for her? Show her what you can do and how you can make her feel if she has a relationship with you.

Establish eye contact when you talk with her. Be confident when interacting with her. Looking her in the eye will assure her of your sincerity and confidence.

Girls are attracted to confident guys--no question about that. But be the real you and dont pretend to be someone you are not.

Attracting girls is all about how you carry and present yourself. Your personality and aura play essential roles, other than your looks. Bear in mind that you do not have to be overly good looking to attract a girl.

Think positive and be confident of who you are--you will find that girls will sense this and will be attracted to you. - 31368

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Tuesday, May 17, 2016

karja mukti ke saral upay in Hindi

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suraj ko jal dena
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Hath mein dosh hone ke karan vykti pr kisi na kisi prakaar ka karja bana rahata hai aur wo insaan takleefo ka samna karta rahata hai- (Baba dev nath)

Karz Mukti Ke Liye Saral Upay:-

1. Paanch gulaab ke fool lene hai shaniwar ke din jinki pankhudiya tooti na ho aur sawa meter safed kapda aur chaar gulaab ke fulo ko charo kono mein bandh dena hai aur aakhiri gulaab ke phool ko beech mein bandh dena hai aur phir us kapde ko ganga mein daal de na hai- (http://indianpalmreading.blogspot.com)

2. Surya ko prtyek ravivar ko jal dena hai.  Ek taambe ke lotte mein 31 laal mirch ke beej daal kar suraj devta ko jal de.

More Compatability Issues In a Romantic Relationship II

A break up is a devastating and heart wrenching experience. If you are going through a break up realize that you are not alone and that there is still hope. Youre probably unable to take your mind of off your ex and are doing everything you possibly can to try and save your relationship from permanent dissolution. The thing is your relationship can probably be saved no matter how bad it looks right now and now matter what the reasons are for the break up. Keep a positive attitude and keep trying and youll probably find that your ex still feels the same way about you.

Communication

Sarah was a talker and Paul was a doer.  Where Sarah started any number of conversations with “I want to talk to you about…” Paul would rather express his feelings for Sarah by taking her out to dinner or buying her a bouquet of flowers. 

One of the big problems in their relationship was that Sarah said “you’re not listening to me” while Paul said “you don’t appreciate the things I do for you.”

This is a classic case of having different communication compatibilities.  Because they express their love differently, Sarah and Paul are in trouble.

This doesn’t mean that their relationship is doomed though.  They have to be open to the idea that they communicate differently.

Sarah may need to get her verbal communication needs met with her female friends rather than her boyfriend.  Paul needs to listen more when Sarah talks.  Sarah needs to appreciate that the way Paul communicates is to take her to dinner or fix her toilet. 

Women tend to be more loquacious than men in general.  It is common for communications compatibility to be an issue in relationships.  Fortunately, this is an issue where “let’s talk” can really solve the problem.

Sex

Sex is an issue in many relationships.  Some people are more adventurous than others.  Others want sex frequently while their partners are satisfied with making love less. 

You should know that mastery of technique is one of the least important facets in a satisfying sex life.  If you are able to communicate your desires to your partner, you can learn and grow together.

But, if you have fundamental differences in your approach to sex, there may be problems.

Jodi and Tom got together and at first, their passion was white hot.  Or so Tom thought.  But, after a few months, it became clear that Jodi was indulging Tom when she didn’t really want to make love every night.

Tom was confused because he felt that Jodi had led him on to secure the relationship and was now changing the terms.  Jodi felt that she was settling down into a more “normal” sex life.

Through relationship counseling, Tom and Jodi were able to discuss their needs and desires. 

Life Habits

So many things get ignored at the beginning of a relationship.  A woman might not care that her new boyfriend doesn’t ever wash his car because she’s swept off her feet by him.  A man might not be concerned that his new girlfriend seems to spend more time at the beauty salon than she does in her own living room.

But soon these life habits become apparent and can cause friction in a relationship.

Jim believed that “early to bed and early to rise made a man healthy, wealthy, and wise.”  On Saturday mornings, he was out of bed at 6:30 for a run in the park.  When he got back around 8:00 a.m., he wanted to have a big breakfast and start the day.

Julia, was not ready to face the weekend so early in the morning.  Saturday was the one day she could catch up on her sleep and she valued her time in bed.

Eventually, Jim joined a men’s Bible study on Saturdays so he felt that the morning wasn’t wasted and Julia agreed to be up by 10:00 when he got back so they could spend the rest of the day together.

But compromising on these life habits issues isn’t always so simple.  Sometimes, they’re deal breakers.  There’s only so much you can bend before you break.

Take a look at this great video advice for more tips on getting your ex back!

Monday, May 16, 2016

psychology Essential Conditions of Successful Change in Therapy

Successful results in therapy have far less to do with the exact intervention used than many health professionals actually suppose. During their university treatments, mental health professionals learn how to dispense specific, empirically validated therapies. However, with thousands of good intervention options available and new approaches regularly vying for attention, it is just not possible for professionals to receive education in each one. Some models reach pre-eminence as a result of the numerous empirical studies supporting their efficacy; for example, Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT) and Interpersonal Process Therapy (IPT) have wide-ranging validation.

Immeasurable scientific studies conducted over decades demonstrate irrefutably that therapy does indeed work; however studies testing the ascendancy of one approach over another are substantially less convincing. In fact the famous "dodo-bird verdict" whereby "Everyone has won and all must have prizes" after Lewis Carroll’s "Alice in Wonderland" was announced in a extensive review of psychological treatment outcome studies (Luborsky et al., 1985). In a ground-breaking review of the research conducted since the early 1970s, Hubble et al. (1999) concluded that there were four common factors of change present in all successful 
therapy outcomes. These common factors are: 

Client Factors (40%)

Client factors are the most powerful force for change in psychotherapy, which account for 40% of improvement. Client factors refer to the strengths and resources that all clients intrinsically possess. These resources encompass a diversity of life domains, both internal and external, for example a keen sense of humour and intelligence can be just as helpful as a supportive network of friends and material possessions. The change process is greatly augmented when the therapist calls attention to and builds on a client’s abundance of strengths. 
Reminders of how resourced clients actually often shocks them as their attention is redirected away from their negative views of themselves and towards their strengths.

Therapeutic Relationship (30%)

At least 30% of all change is accounted for by therapists’ capacity to develop a strong, positive bond with their clients. Doctors know this as a skilled "bedside manner". The characteristics of a first-rate therapeutic relationship are:

=> The aptitude of the therapist for empathy, compassion and caring

=> The amount a therapist can like or love the client

=> Mutual affirmation between client and therapist

=> How much the therapist can encourage the client to take risks and acquire mastery

=> Encouraging the client’s capability for self-responsibility

=> Collaboration with a client instead of advice giving.

Placebo or Expectancy (15%)

Change also to takea place because clients expect it to and this can explain 15% of the observed change. Clients who believe their psychologist to be trustworthy, competent and experienced are more likely to know positive change. 

Model or Technique (15%)

Only 15% of the change observed in therapy is due to the specific treatment modality, yet university education centres around teaching students only one 
or two precise modalities. Therefore many mental health professionals become "technicians" 
covering menu-style treatment manuals over client problems instead of treating the unique and complex, whole human being. Proficiency in particular therapy modalities does not guarantee that therapists are able to tap into the four common factors, thus their ability to facilitate deep change will be inadequate.

Therefore therapy will thrive if the four common factors can be exploited to their total potential. When you are looking for a therapist, make sure they demonstrate the following qualities: attunement to you and the ability to tell you the truth, kindness, compassion, intelligence and experience. It is also vitally important that you like each other!

References
Hubble, M. A., Duncan, B. L., & Miller, S. D. (1999). The Heart And Soul Of Change: What Works In Therapy. Washington, DC: APA
Luborsky, Singer & Luborsky. (1985). Therapist success and its determinants. Archives of General Psychiatry, 42, 602 – 611.



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Sunday, May 15, 2016

How to Get Ex Back Rebound in a Relationship

Nothing hurt you more than knowing your ex rebounding with someone new after your breakup. It might be really painful and you just do not know how to fix this up. However, one thing you do not realize is that a rebound relationship is not a true relationship. This is coming because your ex is still thinking about you. It is actually a good sign that your ex is in a rebound relationship since it means he still thinks about you. Just wait for a little while for your ex to forget the rebounding and get his heart back. While he is in a rebound relationship, do something, but do not make yourself so in desperate to get him back. Just make it natural. This is how to get ex back rebound that you can do.

Find the Answer How Can I Get Her Back

People say it is easy to get something. The tough part is keeping it on hands and it will get harder to bring back what you have lost.
The same theory also goes to love. But if you know that she looks unhappy after the breakup, it is a good sign to answer your question of how can i get her back. Move slowly and never make promises. Change your behaviors better. It will be a nice and surprising gift instead of showering your ex girlfriend with presents. Importantly, improving yourself does not mean to be a liar or pretend to be someone else you are not.

Tuesday, May 10, 2016

More Compatability Issues In a Romantic Relationship

If youve found your way here then probably either you or someone you know is going through a tough break up. I know things look bad now but the last word hasnt been spoken yet. Even if you think your break up is final if youre determined to get back together then you really can do it. Many relationships that go through a break up end up getting back together. It may sound hard to believe but just because youve broken up doesnt mean that your relationship is over for good.

Work

Pamela had worked hard to break through every glass ceiling in her career.  She had been the only female Ph.D. candidate in physics in her class.  She had initially found it difficult to land a tenure track position because many faculty members believed that scientific research was incompatible with the “mommy track.”

Eventually, she proved her ilk as a science professor and became head of the department at a major research university.  From there, she had become dean of the School of Natural Science.

A promotion to Vice President of Academic Affairs at a university across the country followed.  That’s where she met Tim.

Tim was a psychologist.  He had given a presentation at the university on stress management that Pamela attended.  Intrigued by his ideas, she invited him to lunch.

She found that he had very different perspectives about work than she did.  For instance, he put in eight or nine hours a day but didn’t work weekends ever.  While he was proud of what he had accomplished in his career, it didn’t define him.

He recognized how hard she had worked to get to where she had gotten but worried about the toll it had taken on her.  At 44, she had never been married and had had few meaningful relationships.

Tim set out to woo Pamela.  He found that many carefully planned dates were cancelled at the last minute because of pressing and unexpected work schedules.

Eventually, Tim and Pamela had to define how their relationship was going to work vis a vis their careers.  Tim told Pamela that he needed her to make at least as much of a commitment to their relationship as to her job.  Pamela told Tim that she needed him to understand how important her job was to her.

Because Tim and Pamela really wanted their relationship to work, they were willing to put real effort into it despite their basic work compatibility differences.  But this is an example of a couple who through love and communication were able to succeed despite different compatibility levels.

Independence

Tracie liked to read, sew, and do crossword puzzles.  She had a small circle of friends, most of whom she had met through church.  Aside from her job (one where she didn’t interact with people much), she saw groups of friends at church and maybe one other time a week.

Ted was new in town and joined Tracie’s church right away.  He was immediately seen as a “catch” by all of the single women.  But, he saw something in Tracie and didn’t have eyes for anyone else.

The problem was that Ted was always doing something.  He joined a softball league, started volunteering at a soup kitchen, and joined the choir.  He was always pressuring Tracie to go to his games, volunteer with him at the soup kitchen, and to join to choir too.

What Ted didn’t see at first was that Tracie enjoyed her quiet ways.  She needed space.  While Ted was energized by social contact with others, this kind of activity drained Tracie.

Eventually, they decided that Ted would continue to have an active social calendar and that Tracie could participate or not depending on her feelings. 

This actually left both parties feeling that they had control of their independence.  Ted was able to be independent because he could do the activities he liked and Tracie had independence because she could choose not to do them.

Another example of the importance of independence is Robyn and Chad.  Chad was the highly independent type.  He liked to be “free as a bird” and didn’t like to “report” his whereabouts to Robyn.

Robyn was quite insecure.  She liked to know where he was and when he would be in for the evening.  Her previous marriage had dissolved when she discovered that her ex husband had had a long term affair which made her insecure about any future relationships.

Chad and Robyn had to go into counseling to deal with this independence issue.  Chad had to acknowledge Robyn’s insecurities and Robyn had to acknowledge that Chad wasn’t her ex husband.

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How do Win Him Back with Regular Communication

Regular communication may become the answer of the question on how do win him back. It means that the woman should keep in touch with her ex. Don’t left him drift away with no words between the two of you but that doesn’t necessarily means that you will call him or send text message every few hours. Keep the communication open; admit that you make some mistake that brings the relationship ended in the first place. This simple act will show him that you are a responsible person that will be nice to have and in its own way, it can bring you close to him and it will open bigger possibilities to have him back.

Friday, May 6, 2016

Still In Love With My Ex Tips That Might Help To Get Them Back

Editorial Comment: Can you think of any couples that have gotten back together? Whether it was just a relationship or even a marriage they were willing to take each other back? You probably do, but here’s the really weird thing: Do you remember why they broke up in the first place? I bet you know at least one guy or gal that took their lover back after an affair, or unfaithfulness, or worse even? Did you know that most relationships CAN be salvaged? You may find it difficult to believe that almost every break up for whatever reason, infidelity, plain old lost passion, loss of interest, a stolen heart and worse…even the most desperate situation is not beyond hope.

If you are saying to yourself I am still in love with my ex, there is help out there to find ways to get your ex back. If your relationship ended because of something stupid there is a chance he still has feelings for you, too. If that something stupid was a misunderstanding that snowballed out of control and the only way out for the both of you was to break up then just apologize. If both of you need to apologize then all you have to do is to be the bigger person and make that first apology.

Another way to get him back is to use the technology we have available to us today. If you do not feel like calling him or are too embarrassed, then email or text him. If he responds then you are off to a good start. Set up a place to meet and have lunch or coffee and just talk. Do not start by getting all into what went wrong within your relationship, just talk and keep things friendly.

While you are apart though, it would be a good idea to try to improve yourself in some way. Once he sees that you have made some of the changes that need to be made then you may inspire him to do the same and he may even ask for tips on how you are making the changes you are making. If he does ask then you will have more things to talk about and maybe can find things that the both of you are interested in, too. He may even say to himself that I am still in love with my ex and want to explore the possibility of getting back together.

When wanting to get back with an ex, it can be very helpful to consider what went wrong and who screwed up. This isnt about whose fault it was, its about finding the solutions to the problems that led to the break up of your relationship in the first place. Once you have done that the rest can fall into place seamlessly.

No matter who was at fault more than likely you both made some mistakes and can benefit from making some changes. This is the best way to start. It can allow you to not only get back with your ex but you will both have a much better chance of making things work if you do reconcile. It can make you both more mindful of the others feelings.

It is also very important for you to spend time doing the things you like to do and spending time with the people you enjoy spending time with. All of this will allow you some breathing room and time to deal with your own issues.  It will also make the time seem to go a little faster while you are making changes.

Once youve worked things out you should talk to your ex. There are quite a few ways you can do this:  face to face, email, text, instant message, phone call, mutual friends, hand written letter, taking out an ad in the paper, follow them on twitter, message them on Facebook. You could even try skywriting but that is kind of old school. Stick with the more popular methods or you may just get laughed at.

It doesnt matter what method you use, if you follow these ways to get you ex back and do everything you can do to ensure your relationship will be strong this time around, he will most likely be saying Im still in love with my ex, too.

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