Win Your Ex Boyfriend Back the Right Way by Avoiding These Texting Mishaps

A lot of girls who go through breakups end up feeling miserable and depressed. Some girls even feel so depressed that they stop eating and living their lives normally altogether. If this sounds like you, then you need to get up and do something about it. If you really want to win your ex boyfriend back, then do it! However, you should do it the right away and this means avoiding the following texting mishaps like the plague.

Texting Mishap 1. Texting him all day everyday.

If you want to win your ex boyfriend back through text, then you should never, ever do this - most of all if he never replies to your texts to begin with. If he doesnt respond, then just leave him alone for a while. Texting him constantly wont make him think that youre his soul mate - thats for sure. In fact, it might just ruin your chances of winning him back altogether. So, although avoiding the temptation to text your ex boyfriend might be difficult, you have to do it if you want to avoid looking like a desperate stalker. Besides, your ex might just miss you if you lay low for a while.

Texting Mishap 2. Bringing up the breakup.

If you want to win your ex boyfriend back through text, dont mention the breakup when you text him - or your past relationship, for that matter. Badgering him about why he broke up with you and why he wont give you another chance will only annoy him and make him realize that he made the right choice. Just accept the fact that you arent together for now and try to be his friend. If it burgeons into something more in the future, then thats great, but dont think that far ahead for now.

Texting Mishap 3. Begging for a reconciliation.

Probably the biggest texting mishap that you have to avoid if you want to win your ex boyfriend back through text would begging him for another chance. No matter how emotional you might be at the moment or how intense your thought processes are being because of your emotions, do not show him how you feel. If you send him text messages that beg for another chance, you will merely look needy and clingy, and he will know that he has the power to control you from now on - and that definitely wouldnt be a good thing.

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Got Jerks Get Help

Got any jerks in your life? You know the type. The ones who think they know it all, the ones who dont listen to a word you say, the ones who push and push until you cant take it, or the ones who are the first to cry victim but the last to admit to a fault. They are exhausting, relentless, aggressive, nitpicking, frustrating, and by the time you are done talking to them you want to run away screaming.

Worse yet, they can turn even the best of days upside-down with just a comment, message, text or email. You have become so programmed to their belligerent behavior that just the mention of their name stirs you inside and the sound of their voice can bring a fight-or-flight response. As with any jerk, there are those who agree with you about the behavior and then those who adamantly disagree believing him/her to be a wonderful person. So what can you do? What do you do with all of that frustration especially if you are unsure of whom to confine it?

Identify the abnormal behavior. The natural tendency when confronted by a jerk is to do just that, label them as a jerk. While this may bring about some comfort, he/she is the jerk and not you, in the end it leaves you with nothing to do except avoid them. More than likely, if this person is bothering you he/she is not a person you can avoid indefinitely. So instead of labeling and dismissing him/her, identify the behavior that is driving you nuts. Is it a word, phrase, tone of voice, emotion such as anger, aggression, or the way you were attacked? If it is several of these, break it down until you have one really irritating piece.

Identify what it reminds you of. Ask "what does this behavior remind me of" or "who does this behavior remind me of". The first thing that pops into your head is usually the best as long as it is not the same person or incident. For instance, you receive an email from a co-worker who created a larger than life problem but is now trying to shift the blame onto you. You are stuck cleaning up the mess and have to deal with the co-worker but are angry at his/her continued unwillingness to take responsibility for his/her actions. The email sends you over the top as now he/she has manipulated the circumstances to blame you for his/her mistake. So ask the two questions. Could it be that this person reminds you of the time when a bully beat you up and then said it was you who started the fight and the bully was only defend him/her? You may need to ask the question again if there is more than one similar incident, keep going until you have a couple of irritating people on your list.

Identify how you wish you responded. Now that you have the underlying incident mixed with the underlying person, examine how you responded. Most likely you have already replayed the incident in your head over and over wishing for another opportunity to confront the person and given the same set of circumstances and now your response would have been much better. In reality we dont have opportunities to turn back the clock and confront but we do have current circumstances with similar characters which is exactly where you are with the jerky behavior today. At some deep level, this current circumstance reminded you of a past circumstance in which you already had a strong desire to do something different.

So do something different. What is the outcome you are trying to achieve? Using the above story, if your desired outcome is to get noticed for doing quality work, then do excellent flawless work. Dont let the jerk at the office rattle you and cause you to be ineffective, that is his/her goal; rather, use their immature behavior as a way of highlighting your mature behavior. And in the end not only will you feel better but you are one step closer to your desired outcome.

Dont allow the jerks to get the best of you and distract you from doing your work, having fun, or just hanging with the family. He/she lives to steal the best from others and use it to enhance himself/herself. There is no need for you to fall victim again to another trap, identify it and do something different instead.

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