Is getting along with people difficult? Then, I would ask myself; does my life revolve around assumptions and gossip?
Sometimes misunderstanding, hear-say, gossip or accusation can ruins lives. Live your life as "The Four Agreements" and have wonderful harmonious relationships. "The Four Agreements 1. Be impeccable with your word. 2. Dont take anything personally. 3. Dont make assumptions. 4. Always do your best. "Miguel Ruiz, The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom.
It might start as an innocent joke or sometimes justification of an action one takes. However when any "discussion" starts to take shape of one-sided allegation or mere finger-pointing or blame, that is when we need to seat up and question, before posting any comments or personal opinions.
In life, no event, situation or circumstance arouses because of one-sidedness. There are always two people or two parties involved. A falling-out occurs because two people or a group of friends may have had a disagreement or misunderstanding of some sort and it leads to disharmony or difference of opinion.
That does not make one party "right" and another party "wrong". When one side refuses to understand or make amends or give benefit of doubt that is when a small situation can snow ball into a nasty conflict.
When so-called friends, relatives or third-party listen to one side of the story and make judgements or even comments negatively. This perpetuates the outcome into a unhelpful one and takes it to a point of no-return.
We sometimes feel helpless as we assume we cannot influence what is happening around us. The good news is; we can help! Please question the intelligence and ask us, "Are you the one who will blindly follow unfounded information?" "Would you believe anything anyone relates?" Rumours are dangerous and it might give a short term buzz, but please be aware of the damage it may be causing!
Never take a story from one angle and support it, however close friend or relative you might be? When people have beliefs that are different from our own, they get scared, defend themselves, and impose their point of view on others. Sometimes we listen to gossip and make assumptions. Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you feel is kind, loving and helpful. Communicate with others as clearly as you can, to avoid any misunderstandings, sadness and dramas. With just this one agreement, "Dont make assumptions", we can transform our life completely!
When we make assumptions it is because we believe we know what others are thinking and feeling. We believe we know their point of view and their dreams. We forget that our beliefs are just our point of view based on our belief system and personal experiences and have nothing to do with what others think and feel.
I know, if someone gets angry with me, it is because my belief system is challenging their belief system and they get scared. They need to defend their point of view. I do not become angry, create conflict and expend energy arguing. As I am well aware of the damage assumptions and gossip can create. Hence I maintain my silence. Instead I empower myself with the "Powers".
Understanding Powers
Power of Silence
Silence is Golden, Silence is stillness of mind. Silence is the gap between each thought. Experience and increase this gap and remember our original nature; our innate original vibrating Self. Through silence we can achieve that seems unachievable or impossible.
Power of Meditation
Meditation allows us to create a window to access our innate natural state of being. It allows us to effortlessly be joyful, experience a peaceful moment with nature, be warm and patient with our loved ones, and fully be present to enjoy the blissful energy radiated by our pets.
Power of Blessings
Giving and receiving blessings is one of the most potent actions of all other deeds of GOD. Gods every spoken or unspoken word becomes a blessing for us. We are living images of God on this earth. To give even the slightest glimpse of the Almighty Authority, if we perform this one act joyfully then we would be able to give vision of GOD on this earth. We can emphatically say we have accomplished our purpose on this earth when we understand and use the power of blessings.
Power of Forgiveness
When we hold grudge, anger, jealously, hatred, resentment, revenge, irritation, frustration, and impatience, it opens the door to FEAR. Forgiveness unveils the negative emotions and dissolves them. Learning to forgive is like learning to walk. Step by step. Forgiveness melts the toughest rocks or in our case the hardest hearts into love and well-being.
Power of Appreciation
Appreciation and Humility are twins. When we have one we experience the other. When we are not humble we can not appreciate. When we are appreciative of every thing and every one in our life, it is a humbling experience. Appreciation de-energises the power to our EGO Self; the body consciousness. Appreciation is the single most powerful act to bring ourselves back into the Light Nodes or check the Nodes of Being Spectrum.
Power of Non Judgement
Each an every soul on this earth is unique. Each one has at least one very unique talent that no other soul on this earth has. It has been gifted by GOD. So criticising others will cause us to belittle Gods action. I learnt not to judge people a long time ago and I have spared myself so much agony and heart-ache. I have also tapped into this renewed energy which has freed me from this vicious cycle of focusing, judging, categorising, labelling and boxing people, events, circumstances or situations into "bad", "very very bad", "not so good", "terrible", "could be better", "not enough", "horrible", "good", etc.
Sometimes also referred to as being a S.L.O.B.! (Sorting, Labelling, Organising and Boxing) incidents, persons, conditions, state of affairs, behaviours, consequences, outcomes, results, experiences, occurrences, happenings, occasions, events or circumstances.
